Fight Bullying and Harassment at School

To fight bullying and harassment at school, the victim, the guardians and the teachers must work as a team. When the teacher makes you feel like a time waster, don’t stop! Follow the guidelines below.

Fight Bullying and Harassment at School By Managing the Victim First

Noticing Bullying

Many victims consume bullying as apart of their identity. It’s all they think about and it curses their thoughts morning, day and night. It effects their performance at school and it changes their physical habits.

Look out for the following changes…

  1. Skipping meals or over eating
  2. Less exercise
  3. Avoiding favorite hobbies
  4. Less time with friends
  5. Restlessness
  6. A drop in school grades
  7. Less talkative
  8. More time in his or her room
  9. Coming home late
  10. Taking longer to get out of bed
  11. More sensitive
  12. Somewhat aggressive

I often speak about the value of the family meal. It is the easiest way to spot if one of your children or your partner is acting out of the ordinary. Other activities with your child such as sports, walking or simply going out to the cinema may also do the same thing.

When your child Approaches You

It’s so tempting to go in all guns blazing. Shout at the teacher, punch the bullies parent or maybe get annoyed at your child for not approaching you sooner. Remember, it’s not about you.

If your child tells you that he or she is being bullied, remain calm and mindful. Just listen until your child has stopped talking. Ask open ended questions such as…

How often does this child pick on you?

What does this child do to you? This is an important question because it may bring up physical and emotional harm.

Who have spoken too about this?

The final question should always be “what would you like me to do next?” 

This is critical. To fight bullying and harassment at school, your child must feel comfortable talking to you but if you go over your child’s head, he or she may not trust you again.

Your child may believe that if you tell the teacher, the teacher may punish the bully and then the bully may strike your child as a result.

How to Fight Bullying and Harassment at School by Going to the Top

We start with the head master but sadly, it’s not always enough. You’re about to learn how to fight these incidents by taking it as far as it can go.

Before you continue, it is essential that you log all bullying incidents. Check out this post on keeping a diary against bullies. 

Every single incident will be logged and it will be reported to the head master. This includes what happened, where it happened and at what time.

When you write to the head master, send an electronic letter (email) and a regular letter in the post. Keep one for yourself by printing off the email and placing it in your diary.

If the head master does not take the appropriate action, write to the chair of governors. At the same time, write a complaint to your local council and ask for a meeting.

Before the meeting, get a copy of your child’s education records as a decrease in performance at school is a strong piece of evidence. You may also wish to ask other parents if their child has been bullied too.

Whilst at the meeting, ask the local education authorities to carry out an investigation. Also ask if other reports have been made and ask if the welfare officer has been involved.

Closing Notes

The video below contains further information on this topic. It is apart of my self-defence series on YouTube which you may find by clicking here.

5 Reasons Why Taekwondo Helps Children with ADHD

Before I go into why Taekwondo helps children with ADHD, it’s important to understand what ADHD is. To help with this, I’ve extracted text from the NHS website.

“Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a group of behavioural symptoms that include inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness. Symptoms of ADHD tend to be noticed at an early age and may become more noticeable when a child’s circumstances change, such as when they start school.”

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To expand on the text above, this is what we usually see when a child with ADHD comes into our club for the first time.

  1. He or she talks over our coaches.
  2. The head keeps moving frantically.
  3. Eyeline is directed to irrelevant objects.
  4. The child randomly throws him or herself to the floor.
  5. Frequent running around in his or her space during class.

This fades out quickly. On many occasions, this behavior fizzles out within a single class. So why do these changes occur?

Structured Session Plans

The beginner practices a set series of movements in small combinations. Overtime, the student learns to put these combinations together into a fluent Taekwondo pattern. This teaches the student patience, discipline, structure and long-term-gratification. It also improves their concentration and listening skills.

Self Control

As your child kicks and punches the pads, you will see a great development in his or her self-control. Your child will develop an understanding of his or her strength, improve accuracy and expel energy in our class so that they are more relaxed at home.

Setting Attainable Goals

The majority of sports only offer an external award that is based on being competitive. Although exposure to competitions can be a fantastic thing, many children with ADHD often believe that they never win at anything. By bringing your child to West Coast Taekwondo, they can earn a belt every three months without competing with other children. Many of my students with ADHD have also won the “Student of the Week” award on multiple occasions.

A Focus on Individual Growth

Taekwondo is a fantastic substitute for team sports. Team sports are highly competitive and your child may struggle with the pressure of failing his or her team. Taekwondo develops the child by placing focus on self-improvement.

Making Friends and Building Confidence

I guess I cheated on this one but even though this post is called 5 reasons why Taekwondo helps children with ADHD, friendships and confidence go hand in hand so it made sense to double up on this point. West Coast Taekwondo is a community of optimistic minded people. Our coaches and students are forever supporting each-others development in the sport and in life.

A Quick Closing Note

Recently, a student of mine with ADHD had came into our class for the second time. At first she was shy. However, as soon as she arrived this week, she was playing with the other children and communicating openly. By taking part just like everybody else, she wasn’t just a Taekwondo student. She was apart of our team of ninjas!

If You Enjoyed Taekwondo Helps Children with ADHD, You May Also Like…

 

Taekwondo Builds Confidence

How to Improve a Child’s Focus

Taekwondo and Making Friendships 

The Tenants of Taekwondo

Also, you may wish to access two free lessons with West Coast Taekwondo by clicking here.

Speak soon!

Coach Gethin Rhys James

 

Martial Arts in Carmarthen

West Coast Taekwondo has been offering martial arts in carmarthen since September 2017. In just over six months, we now have three classes in three different locations around Carmarthen. At the time of posting this blog, the classes are:

Tuesday
  • JUNIOR KICKERS: 5pm at Abergwili Church Hall

If you have a child who wishes to learn martial arts in Carmarthen, this epic class for 6 to 12 year old kids is for you! This class offers more than basic self-defense. The class features activities which are designed to improve a child’s focus and physical literacy.

“Alex has been going the last few months and really enjoys. He has made new friends and is really improving with his coordination, he has dyspraxia so the discipline and focus of Taekwondo is helping him greatly. Gethin is a great teacher, very encouraging to all his pupils, making the class fun with discipline at the same time. I highly recommend this class to anyone who is looking for a fun and focused activity. Thank you.”

Karen Kilburn, Taekwondo Parent

  • TAEKWONDO FAMILIES: 7pm at Trinity Sports Centre 

The class at Trinity Sports Centre is one of our most popular class. Although it is mainly made up of adults and older teenagers, a junior student will not feel out of place. Many of our students absolutely love our stand alone punch bags!

“Fantastic instructor! Gethin has underpinning scientific knowledge that make his sessions enjoyable, relevant and beneficial. Whether you’re a novice or a serious competitor, Gethin’s background and experience within the sport and sporting world, ensure his sessions cater for all.”

Marcus Twine, World Championship Finalist

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Thursday
  • TAEKWONDO FAMILIES: 6.30pm at Model School

Model School is our second family friendly Taekwondo class. As this session is relatively new, we are currently averaging 9 to 11 students per class. For this reason, many new beginners feel very relaxed in this environment.

“Brilliant instructor I’ve signed up all 3 children to his taekwondo classes, he is great with the children, helps give them confidence & gives everyone such a warm welcome, we look forward to his classes every week – a 5 star instructor!!!”

Fiona Tymons, Taekwondo Parent

When it Comes to Martial Arts in Carmarthen, We’re Your Go To!

 

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Click here to learn about our organization. The TAGB has 30,000 members nation wide!

 

 

The Original Korean Karate Hits Carmarthen

Welcome to a Carmarthen Karate class with a Korean twist! Derived from Karate, Taekwondo was formed for the Korean military. Taekwondo was once used as an effective form of attacking but has now been re-purposed for self-defence.

The Origins of Karate

Karate is a Japanese word meaning “empty hand.” It originated on the Okinawa island.

The Okinawa style of martial art was formed as a method of self-defence when weapons were banned by the invading Japanese military.

Settlers of Okinawa during that time include people from South East Asia, China and Japan. Each of these groups had contributed to the birth of Karate.

Evolution of the Art

In 1905, Karate was put into the Japanese education system. In 1917, Funukoshi gave his first public demonstration. Funukoshi was the founder of Shotokan Karate.

Karate Moves to Korea

Choi Hong Hi was a Korean man who moved to Japan to study. He studied English and mathematics. He also studied Shotokan Karate under Funukoshi.

Fast forward to the later part of his military career. It was 1955 and Choi had assembled a demonstration team to tour China and Vietnam. He was promoting his own Martial Art, Taekwondo.

What is the Main Difference Between Original Karate and Taekwondo? 

Karate was originally formed for self defence. Furthermore, it placed heavy emphasis on striking with the hands as combat mainly took part in marsh land.

Taekwondo was put forward as a method of unarmed attack. It was a weapon for the South Korean military. It placed more emphasis on kicks for the following reasons:

  1. Kicking down on opponents whilst fighting on a hill.
  2. Knocking enemy troops off their horses by using jumping kicks.
  3. Jumping over one person for the purpose of striking somebody else on the other side.

Method number 3 is known as the flying high kick. It was one of the most impressive feats that a member of General Choi’s demonstration team had performed.

What is Taekwondo Now?

Taekwondo is know used as a way of self-defence. Furthermore, Taekwondo is a fantastic tool for building discipline, improving confidence and developing all aspects of fitness.

We teach the style of Taekwondo at our Carmarthen Karate classes.

What do Our Students Say About Our Carmarthen Karate Class?

“Alex has been going the last few months and really enjoys. He has made new friends and is really improving with his coordination, he has dyspraxia so the discipline and focus of Taekwondo is helping him greatly. Gethin is a great teacher, very encouraging to all his pupils, making the class fun with discipline at the same time. I highly recommend this class to anyone who is looking for a fun and focused activity 🙂 Thank you”

Karen Kilburn, Parent.

“My son has been attending with Gethin since September 2017. Gethin has a fantastic rapport with children and my sons confidence and self esteem has improved greatly. Not only is my son having fun and keeping fit but he is also learning discipline and has his first grading in the very near future! I thoroughly recommend West Coast Taekwondo. Keep up the good work Gethin.”

Heidi Bassett, Parent.

“Brilliant instructor I’ve signed up all 3 children to his Taekwondo classes, he is great with the children, helps give them confidence & gives everyone such a warm welcome, we look forward to his classes every week – a 5 star instructor!!!”

Fiona Tymons, Parent.

For more awesome reviews on our Carmarthen Karate class, please visit our facebook page or you can find us on Google.

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We look forward to seeing you in class!

Goal Setting Theory

There are many ways that we can set goals. The way we choose a goal setting theory completely depends on our ambition and our mentality.

There are three particular ways which are very popular in the world of personal development. You can see how each goal setting theory has been dissected below.

Goal Setting Theory Number 1: The 10X Rule

You may have heard of The 10X Rule. The 10X Rule is a book that was written by the world renowned sales expert, Grant Cardone. The theory simply states that most people fail to live up to their full potential. You can argue that this approach encourages the reader to shoot for the stars as the worst case scenario would be to land on the moon.

Step 1: Multiply your original goal by 10. If you wanted to be a million air, aim for 10 million. If you wanted a five bedroom house, work as though you’re buying a 50 room apartment building.

Step 2: Multiply the perceived actions it would take to achieve step one by 10.

Pros

This goal setting theory is perfect for you if you are highly motivated, ambitious and have a disliking for calculating metrics too frequently.

Cons

This approach is not for you if you are easily discouraged or if you work well with a deadline.

Goal Setting Theory Number 2: The Dream Line

We’re going to walk away from the hustle mentality and dive into one of the most popular theory’s out there. In his iconic book, The 4 Hour Work Week, Tim Ferris uses a 3 month checklist that he calls his “Dream Line.” These are lists of items to own, experiences to have and personal development achievements that one may wish to achieve.

goal setting theory

Pros

The Dream Line offers short term gratification. Furthermore, it shows you how to financially back each achievement.

Cons

The Dream Line does not teach long term gratification for a single cause. E.g. the number of people one may impact or financial income. However, the Dream Line May provide this feature if you plans your goals practically.

Goal Setting Theory Number 3: The One Thing

The One Thing is one of my favorite books and it was written by Real Estate tycoon, Gary Keller and his partner Jay Papasan. It places emphasis on the focusing question…

“What’s the one thing I can do, such that by doing it everything else will become easier or unnecessary.”

The book teaches its readers to make a ten year goal and to work backwards from there. Simply answer the following questions…

  1. First of all, what do I want to achieve in 10 years?
  2. Secondly, what do I need to achieve in 1 year to reach my 10 year goal?
  3. Another, what do I need to achieve in 1 month to achieve me 10 year goal?
  4. Also, what do I need to achieve in 1 week to achieve my 10 year goal?
  5. Finally, what do I need to achieve in 1 day to achieve my 10 year goal?

Pros

This goal setting theory is incredibly handy as it provides you with a logical way of managing your time and priorities.

Cons

You may find that this theory can be monotonous. However, Gary Keller once said “most people can’t handle the monotony it takes to be successful.”

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