A Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Bullies

A Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Bullies is one of my most important posts. Please share it via the Facebook link below the post. Many parents will definitely benefit from its advice.

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Coach GRJ


Full disclosure, I’m not a parent. I have a nephew and a niece. The thought of them being victimized by some undisciplined little brat infuriates me. However, below we have a parent’s guide to dealing with bullies.

Frequent Communication is Essential

There should be great communication in the household. Family time is key. I’ve written to my newsletter subscribers about the power of a family meal on many occasions as well providing a parent’s guide to dealing with bullies. A daily ritual of eating around the table will build comradeship between you all and will develop better judgment of character. Therefore, when a child is acting out of character, you’ll notice quicker.

Remain Calm

If your child approaches you about an incident at school, don’t show upset or anger. After all, it took great courage on your child’s behalf to mention what happened. Instead, demonstrate calmness and a pro-active mentality.

I would recommend asking the child how he or she would like you to take it forward. You’ll still have the final say but you’ll prevent your child from panicking about the situation escalating.

It Is Important to Keep Notes

As soon as you hear about these scenarios, grab a notepad and pen, and document these issues. Record dates, times, locations and exactly what’s been happening. Also record any communication between you and the school. This includes who you talked to, the date and time of communication, how you communicated (phone or in person) and copies of emails.

Approach the Head of the School

When approaching the school, it’s tempting to charge into the head masters office. It may also be tempting to have a strong word with the bully’s parents. However, approach calmly. Whatever happens, get the schools attention every time there’s an incident.

Don’t ever be made to feel like a time waster!

Get Support for Yourself

A Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Bullies

You need support too as the thought of your child being bullied is hurtful. Speak to friends who don’t have children in the same school that your child goes too. This is a simple precaution as you don’t want the issue to spread further.

Know When to Take it Higher

If the school is not dealing with the situation, you should contact the school governor. The governor may keep the matter between the headmaster and him/herself but will investigate why the dilemma hasn’t been resolved. Again, record all communications in your diary.

If the governor fails you, report to the local council. When doing this, present your documented notes, ask if other bullying cases have been reported from the school and request a formal investigation.

At this stage, start speaking to other parents. If multiple children are being picked on by the same bully, your case will be stronger and you’ll have more support.

Keep documenting, keep communicating and if nothing happens, keep going higher.

I hope this post “a parent’s guide to dealing with bullies.” Here we have a link to a fantastic charity called Bullies Out. This is another great resource for advice: https://bulliesout.com/

Speak soon

Coach GRJ

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The Difference Between Semi-Contact and Olympic Taekwondo

I commonly have people ask me what the difference between semi-contact and olympic taekwondo is. After explaining it to many new students, I’ve decided to open up the lap top and scribble out a post to explain it.

What Style of Taekwondo Does West Coast Taekwondo Practice?

At West Coast Taekwondo, we practice the semi-contact style. I love our style of Taekwondo. Yes, we have the flashy kicks. However, we kick butt with our hands too. Here’s a run down on our scoring system…

Head and body punch = 1 point

Body kick = 2 points

Head kick = 3 points

Our equipment includes a gum shield, head guard, boxing gloves, ground guard, shin guards and foot pads. 

How is the Olympic Style Different?

The Olympic style was created after a feud between the Korean government and the founder of Taekwondo, General Choi Hong Hi. It has a different scoring system…

Head punch = an instant disqualification! 

Body punch = 1 point

Direct body kick = 1 point

Spinning body kick = 2 points 

Direct head kick = 3 points

Spinning head kick = 4 points 

(This changes consistently so the above information may already be outdated!) 

The Olympic style has slightly different equipment. They have a head guard, gum shield, body protector, forearm protectors, groin guard, shin guard, hand protectors (not to be confused with boxing gloves) and foot protectors. 

It’s a little more to take in but simple enough to to understand. What complicates the Olympic style is its electronic scoring technology. If you don’t hit hard enough or if you’re not precise with your kicks, you won’t score. 

The Olympic style has been criticised for not being a great spectator sport. Personally, I believe that what we do is far more entertaining to watch but I am biased! However, I still appreciate the alternative style of Taekwondo as a great show of athletic capability. 

In Conclusion

So, for my students who get asked about the different styles, you can tell people that it’s like Rugby. Rugby League and Rugby Union are both still Rugby but they have a different set of rules and regulations. Whenever someone asks me what the difference between semi-contact and olympic Taekwondo is, I find the rugby analogy to be very helpful.

Many may wonder if it is possible to transfer from one style to another. Why yes it is! In fact, double gold medal Olympian Jade Jones used to be apart of the TAGB. 

Speak soon warriors! 

Coach GRJ 

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Taekwondo Builds Confidence

Here’s an action shot from the fountains of Barcelona at a Taekwondo summer camp in 2011. This is me and my old team mate John Creg showing off our side kick.

Taekwondo Builds Confidence

Taekwondo really can take you all over the world if you put in the time and effort, but I want to talk about one short term benefit that our junior students prosper with. Confidence! 

Here are just 5 ways Taekwondo helps our students to excel in confidence…

Learning self defence

It is crucial for your child to feel safe in his/her own home town, school or anywhere else they may go. Feeling safe is the initial step towards more confidence. 

Building friendships 

WCTKD allows students to interact through skill building activities. New friendships are inevitable at our clubs and friendships build self esteem. 

Skill development

Students are always developing new skills. At first they block, kick and strike. They master the technique. They get faster, stronger and learn to apply it in a combat scenario. The more they learn, the higher their sense of achievement is. 

Belt gradings

Speaking of achievements, we have a belt ranking system. Therefore, our students get internal rewards and external rewards. These belts often bring validation from others which heightens the sense of achievement further. 

Improved fitness

No, we are not task masters who want your kids to sweat buckets every hour they are with us. That is no fun for anybody. However, stronger muscles and a lower body fat are associated with practicing Taekwondo. It pretty much happens by accident! 

So, bring your kid along to see us. Especially if he or she is having confidence issue. Just click here for 2 FREE LESSONS. 

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Speak soon warrior,

Coach GRJ 

Strength Training for Kids

Strength training for kids can be a complicated subject so I’d like to welcome you to keep an open mind whilst reading this blog post. 

Strength Training for Kids

To keep your legs elevated in the position you see above is a difficult task due to the need for good flexibility and a very strong set of thigh muscles to maintain this posture. I’ve been going to the gym for many years and I can tell you, nothing burns like this! 

Taekwondo has made me so much stronger. It’s encouraged. To this day, the first thing that a white belt must do to pass his or her first grading is 10 strict push-ups.

People often debate about the effects of strength training for kids so this post is dedicated to diving into the research. 

A Consideration for Healthy Joint Development

Rugby coaches are often the worst culprits because they advised children to stay away from picking up weights but then force them into hundreds of push ups and crunches during practice. This can result in joint issues that are associated with imbalances. Think about it. Push-ups work the chest, crunches work the abs. This develops that hunched over monstrous posture. Adding a few rowing acting no with Dumbbells and a few squats and lunges can help to counteract these deformities. 

Technical Enhancement for Safety

The next step is to consider the intensity. A child should never break his or her technique as this can lead to injury. If the child cannot perform the exercise properly, the chances are, they are either not strong enough in the first place or they have been trained too hard. 

An Example Strength Training for Kids Workout

I never like to exceed 2 sets for anyone under the age of 16. Furthermore, I don’t feel that it is necessary for anyone under 16 to perform more than 3 exercises per workout. 

Take a look at this example:

The initial exercise  is 2 sets of 8 push. Secondly, practice 2 sets of 8 bent over row and to finish, perform 2 sets of 8 lunges on each leg

Final Notes

Remember that using additional weight is never the issue. Better muscle density, more muscle tone and additional cardiovascular work can be impacted by resistance training. Too much intensity at a young age must be avoided otherwise there is a chance that physical development will be impaired. 

I hope this gives you food for thought and I’ll speak to you next week! Always feel free to get in touch.

Coach GRJ

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